The birthday avatar shouldn't make the board any slower, since it only checks the member profile (which is open in any case) and the calendar variable file (you shouldn't notice that, since dozens of other files are also opened so one more doesn't make any difference).
Upgrading to Threads: a next generation UBB is planned to be released soon, so if I were you I would wait, unless the performance issue is really urgent.
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