The new 6.1 boards seem to be sizing them correctly. New uploaded ones at least. As far as caching goes, add a message to the editbasic.tmpl to remind them to clear their cache? Or you can use my forum avatar hack which will not have a cache problem if they change avatars, or you can only let them link to a url for avatar which would eliminate the problem.
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