You can copy my-large.cnf or even my-huge.cnf and paste it into /etc as /etc/my.cnf. Then you have to stop and start MySQL, method depends on your OS and environment.
As Josh suggested, your server specs don't matter until you tune MySQL. And until you tune MySQL, you'll likely continue to experience problems.
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