Hello Franky, you are the Santa!, The answer was there from DT, SPAWN, Allen and others but I wasn't seeing it untill you posted. My mistake!!!!!!!
Yes you have to take the PM notification off for it to work but the first change in PM notification is:
require "private.cfg";
and when I was taking the PM notification hack off I was also taking this line off and that had to be there for IM to work.
Thanks everyone for all the help!
I will mail this thread to Ladyfire, she may have the same issue.