ok, first... there is no inted on 7.3, they use xinet.d now.
Second, Are you REALLLLY sure you want to run Apache under xinet.d insead of standalone?
Third, ( wow, I gotta lot of answers today, eh? ) when you compiled Apache, be it 1.3.26 or 2.whatever it should have made a script called apachectl. It'll be in your apache bin dir. Make a symlink to it from your /etc/init.d directory named httpd. Then in rc3.d or rc5.d make a symlink to it named S85httpd.
Fourth , if you install Wu-ftp I'm answering no more questions
Go to
www.proftpd.org and download and install that. proftpd you DO want to run from xinetd and NOT standalone. Forget the documentation on the website, it sucks and it's out of date. Read the README and INSTALL files that come in the tar.gz.
Fifth, get familiar with the linux documentation project, linuxdoc.org.
http://www.linuxquestions.org/ is a decent one. linuxnewbie.org used to be the very best while Sensei was running it. They suck now but I see someone is trying to resurrect it. Keep your eye on it.